People can be struggling emotionally but not realize it themselves. Yet, if you look closely enough, it often shows unconsciously in their behavior.
Often times this anxiety is masked behind extra (efforted) laughter, keeping ‘busy with many things’, or unconsciously emulating the behaviors of those they look-up to — like a child seeking comfort and security from a ‘parental figure’. I think we all go through phases of ups and downs in life; I am far from being exempt myself, as I have often shared. But there comes a point where we just have to get real with ourselves, and sit down and see what needs to be done to set things in order, one step at a time. What truly needs our undivided attention, instead of turning to external distractions.
If there’s one thing last winter has taught me: KNOWING WHEN to ask for help is a form of self-care and self-love. But I think here’s the catch: getting the right support from the right people means not forcing that task upon your loved ones.
So often we WANT that support to come from specific people in our lives — parent, spouse, lover, friend — that we fail to seek help from where it can truly come. Not to mention, often the people we have in our life MAY NOT BE EQUIPPED emotionally or technically to offer the proper response!
Living in denial of our truth is one of the hardest things to do, it sucks the life out of you. Not taking the time to acknowledge our inner struggles, to look at that anxiety or pain… is a form of denial. Not acknowledging literally means to deny! And although denial does help us to cope temporarily, so that we may seek out possible solutions and appropriate care — when left too long, denial becomes chronic. Parts of our body might ‘freeze up’, become stiff, painful, or constantly inflamed.
Mentally, because so much energy is spent unconsciously pressing down on the anxiety (so as to not let it surface), we lose touch with our creativity, problem-solving, and the capacity to self-reflect.
Without these energies it is near impossible to further the spiritual path. If you want to let the light in, you first have to open the door, and let it all BE SEEN.
Do not be afraid.
S.
30/12/2023
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